Why a mentor?
I also have mentors, many of them! I still learn from them and still respect them, I have chosen them because they are clearly leaders in the industry. They help me to stay on track and they motivate me when I need it most, helping me to excel in my skill. I also have learnt from them how to be a good mentor and what my responsibilities are to the ones I mentor.
Here is the definition of a mentor and how I chose mine. And after years being with them, I chose the right ones!
an experienced and trusted adviser.“he was her friend and mentor until his death”
synonyms: adviser, guide, confidant, confidante, counsellor, consultant, therapist;verb
advise or train (someone, especially a younger colleague).“both trainees were expertly mentored by a site supervisor”
So it is clear:
Mentors should teach themselves, counsel and help students themselves! The reason for that is very simple: a mentor has knowledge and experience that you will not be able to find in any other book or on any other website! Small pieces of gold hidden to be discovered and only by the ones close to them. I can read all the books I want but experience is worth 10 times more and is learnt in a very short time. What the mentor learnt over years, he can translate to you in weeks and even days, it saves you time and pain and lots of frustration.
So here is my tips for choosing a mentor:
- Make sure the guy who sells you the course is the one who will train you and mentor you himself. You need to work closely with him to learn from him, dont settle for anyone else.
- Go look at their profiles, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram.
- Are they telling you how great their lives are or are they teaching, helping others?
- Pictures: All about themselves or about the market?
- Watches, cars and cash is a run away signal!
- Ask their students – easy to fool the public, go ask the ones who already did the course.
- Are they knowledgeable and yet still teachable? The market keeps traders humble; if this guy knows it all, get yourself another mentor.
- Ask to join a free mentorship session and see for yourself. See how he is handling his responsibilities to his current students. Is he getting someone else to do his job?
- Are they professional?
- Is your growth important to him? Is he pushing you to excel?
Mentors are a must! I will not be where I am today if it werent for my mentors from which I have learnt from. Years and years of hard work with them is paying off every single trade. Let your mentor push you! Do the “wax on, wax off” exercises, keep going, walk the road with him and come out a better person!